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Why DARLING Matters to Me

From beginning to end, Darling has been a passion project—I would go so far as to say I’ve felt a calling from God to do what I could to help women understand and glorify God with their sexuality. For me, that meant writing and so I started reading and writing on the subject.

Today, I wanted to open up a bit about when I first started writing my book and why it means so much to me, so below you’ll find an excerpt from the Preface to Darling ::

One crisp fall evening about four years ago, my husband and I went for a walk in the country, and I was spitting mad.

Over the course of a few weeks I had heard several women’s stories that were both alarming and upsetting. It seemed that in an effort to keep women innocent, women are also often kept ignorant of the details of anatomy, sexuality, and sex. And even though nearly everyone is exposed to sexual content in the media, there is very little accurate and healthy information thrown out there at the same time.

My husband turned to me and said simply, “Why don’t you do something about it?”

With over ten years of youth and college ministry experience, a stint teaching sex education in the public school system, and a penchant for obsessively reading on the subject, I decided to tackle the issue. What I discovered was an enormous collection of good and helpful information out there for people who wanted it. My goal became connecting women to that information so that they would feel knowledgeable and empowered about issues of womanhood and sexuality.

All along the way, I kept thinking about the fact that God was the one who made our bodies, created sex, and invented sexuality. I wondered, “What does God think about sex?” The answer to that question seemed to me to be the solution to all our questions and troubles concerning sexuality. But in the end, I realized that the better question is, “What does sex tell us about God?” And the answer is astonishing. My hope and prayer is that in the pages of this book and through the experience of participating in your sexuality in the intended, complete, and most pleasurable way, you will get a more intimate and revealing glimpse of God himself.


(Photo by Emma Lang via Instagram)


Posted by Aanna on Tuesday, May 23rd, 2017


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