The Story of a Darling
By far the best part of the last ten days has been hearing the stories of how God is using Darling in the lives of women. It has given me so much joy to read your emails, messages and posts about the things in the book that have stuck out to you or have helped you. I wanted to share one story in particular, because I found it so beautiful and poignant. This is a note I received from a woman named Laura*, who kindly agreed to let me share it here—
Hi Aanna, I got a copy of your book today and I ended up reading it from start to finish this afternoon! I wanted to share with you the way that your words have impacted my life from the beginning to the end of your book.
I’m getting married in two months and I can’t wait! It’s an exciting time and a crappy time all at once, because engagement is HARD. Anyway, I’ve been asking many questions that you book touched on and God has been working in my life to bring me to the point today… which I want to thank you for!
I grew up in the church, and I feel like in some ways I’m the poster child for “youth group kid of the year” who “never makes mistakes” and whose identity is literally forged with purity… and because my identity of “purity” growing up became tied to worth, saying “no” was the mantra of my whole life… which is fine when you’re 15. But when I started to think about the realities of saying “yes” instead of “no” guilt, fear, and lies that my purity would hurt me, or hurt him, or that I would never be enough began to creep in.
When I finished reading Darling, I went in my room, shut the door, and pulled out my wedding dress. I put it on. I stood in front of the mirror and proclaimed aloud the truths I was reminded of and the new ones I learned from Darling—Sex is good. I have been uniquely made by God and pleasure is something I can have. I am not wrong or hindered, or an automatic failure because of the purity I have been blessed to live in. I can say yes to my husband when we get married without guilt or shame because God created marriage and he created sex. They are good.
Tears came as God affirmed each of those things. I got to pray about the last couple of months of engagement we have, about our wedding night, about the next steps we can take in preparing for marriage, and ask for God’s blessing in those ways.
I love Laura’s honesty in sharing the fears and doubts that so often swirl in our minds regarding our sexuality. And I was amazed at her bravery and assertiveness in creating a moment for herself to stand up and claim the truth of God for her life.
When I asked Laura if I could share her story, she said that she’d be happy to, because she felt like it was not really even her story, but rather a story of God’s work. I was so touched by this perspective and realized once again how sharing the stories of what God has done in our lives to redeem and bless our sexuality can be enormously encouraging and helpful to other women walking the same road.
If you’re willing and interested, please leave a review on Amazon or email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) the story of how God has used Darling in your life. I’d love to post more stories like this, to give glory to God for the way that he is making us his darlings.
*Her name has been changed for the sake of her privacy.