Extra Virgin :: No One Is Fine
Last week, my husband Logan preached to some middle school students from Mark 5:24-34 about the woman who had been bleeding for twelve years, but sought out Jesus in a crowd in order to touch him, hoping that he would heal her. The story is beautiful and poignant, but Logan brought out one point that I had never thought about before ::
In that crowd, there had to have been a bunch of needs. There were a bunch of people with problems that only Jesus could fix. But only she was healed. Why is that?
It’s because she recognized her terrible condition. She knew she needed Jesus, and she reached out with trembling hope and touched him. And she alone, in that crowd, was healed.
When was the last time I took a deep look… when was the last time you took a deep look into your heart and mind and asked, “Where do i need the healing of Jesus?”
Most of us go through life thinking that we’re basically fine. We pretend that we don’t have problems, sins and deep-seated issues. Logan brought up this totally hilarious/accurate/tragic cartoon ::
We’re all like this dog! We sit in the middle of our “terrible condition” thinking, “This is fine…I’m fine…I’m basically doing ok.” But no one is fine. We all need Jesus—so badly—and the only way we can find healing, recovery and restoration is by realizing that we’re not ok and that we need help. (This is not only the prerequisite for healing, but also the prerequisite for salvation.)
I wanted to bring this point up here, during an Extra Virgin post, because I think it is incredibly relevant to the subject of sexuality. I have yet to find a person who doesn’t have issues, sins and brokenness in the area of sexuality. No one is perfect in this area, no one has it all together, no one is completely pure or has a sinless past. Whether it’s lust, fear, abuse, disillusionment, distrust or pride, everyone needs to find healing within their sexuality. But the only people who will find that healing are the ones willing to admit that they have a problem.
On a personal note, in my own history of dealing with sexual sin and issues, the only times I have really made progress is through first being willing to admit that I have a problem and to be honest about it. Truth and honesty are the way forward—as difficult as it is to face your sexual sin or brokenness, it’s the first step toward healing and wholeness. There are so many ways to do this, but here are some possible first steps ::
- Confess your “terrible condition” to Jesus and reach out to him in prayer, asking him to heal you.
- Meet with a trusted friend and tell her about the sexual sin or brokenness in your life.
- Read 2 Corinthians 5:17-6:2 and believe that Jesus has truly purified you from sin and will (at the right time) heal you from all brokenness.
At the end of his sermon, Logan said, “Don’t be like everyone else and tell yourself, ‘I’m fine.’ Go with the brave, broken woman.” Much love, friends. May you take the way of the brave, broken woman.
(Photo by Jordan McQueen)