Extra Virgin :: Good In Bed Part II
This is the second in a five part series that is all about the question, “How can I be good in bed?” Because of the uniqueness of each marriage relationship, it would be naive of me to try to perfectly answer this question for everyone, but I’d like to spend five weeks discussing some ways that I think a woman can give a lot of pleasure to her husband ::
A lot of the time, it will feel like sex is counter-intuitive, like you just can’t figure out the best way to do it without some outside advice. However, there’s one instinct you have that will serve you well. It’s the instinct to laugh. One of my friends says, “We learned early on that if something awkward or embarrassing happens, just laugh. Things like that are going to happen and you can’t avoid it. You may as well enjoy those things instead of fear them.”
As a newlywed, you may assume that laughter isn’t sexy, that it ruins the moment. Nothing could be further from the truth! Take a moment to think about when your husband makes you laugh…Suddenly you feel happy inside, open towards him. It makes you like him more and endears you to him. Or consider when he laughs at your joke. It feels amazing, doesn’t it? It’s a kind of compliment, really. Laughter will bond you two together so quickly.
Laughter shoots endorphins through your body, causing feelings of happiness, contentment, and bonding. (Those are the same feelings you get during an orgasm!) Laughter can help to rid your sex life of feelings of guilt or dirtiness. People don’t laugh with each other during a one night stand. People don’t laugh with each other during affairs. People laugh with each other during holy, monogamous sex. Laughter will clear the air, endear you to each other, and permeate the air with a feeling of purity and lightness.
Also, choosing to laugh instead of feeling offended or resentful is a beautiful way to be like Jesus. It’s a way to quickly and selflessly smooth things over if one of you makes a mistake during sex.
Laughter is truly one of the best ingredients for amazing sex.
P.S. Good In Bed Part I
(Photo by Jindrich Streit)