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Extra Virgin :: Good In Bed Part 1

This is the first in a five part series that is all about the question, “How can I be good in bed?” Because of the uniqueness of each marriage relationship, it would be naive of me to try to perfectly answer this question for everyone, but I’d like to spend the next five weeks discussing some ways that I think a woman can give a lot of pleasure to her husband ::

Warmth

Honestly, I struggled to think of a word to describe this first attribute. I thought of words like kind, pleasant, easy to talk to, approachable, amiable, friendly, considerate and affectionate. But my favorite word comes from a scene in The Office in which Michael asks Jim why he likes Pam. Jim says, “She’s warm.”

A man isn’t some weird, sex-crazed being who doesn’t care who you are on the inside as long as you are supermodel-hot and have a vagina. Sex is emotional and personal for a man, and your response to him before, during and after sex can have a profound effect upon him.

If you’re responsive, content and warm-hearted, he will drink you up like a tall glass of cold water. If you’re sullen, resigned, unhappy or discontent, no amount of lingerie can satisfy him.

Consider this heartfelt explanation from one husband—

A man really does feel isolated, even with his wife. But in making love, there is one other person in this world that you can be completely vulnerable with and be totally accepted and not judged. It is a solace that goes very deep into the heart of a man.

Sex is emotionally powerful in the heart of a man, and your warm-hearted attitude toward your husband makes him feel loved.

(Photo by The Parsons)


Posted by Aanna on Monday, June 6th, 2016


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